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Goal Tenders – by Mary Giuffre
Me: “I really don’t know. I don’t set goals. Never have. I think that’s why I’ve been so successful.” HR Interviewer: Blank Stare Our society is stuck on goals. Too many people I’ve met manage their lives a lot like a sports match. They feel it’s their duty to plot out rigid step-by-step manoeuvres, pinpointing exactly what they want and where they should be on life’s playing field, then mapping exactly how they propose to go about getting there. They feel most unacceptable to themselves if they don’t live up to their own expectations by scoring the winning play and even worse, if they miss the mark, they make themselves sick with worry about what their competitors will think of them. But they still make it their life’s mission to tend their goals! If by chance you’re not in the game and don’t have any specific goals, the population at large figures you lack ambition or the drive it takes to succeed in this materially driven society of ours and that you live a terribly irresponsible life, always flying by the seat of your pants. The way I see it here on the sidelines, compulsive goal tenders are most comfortable being busy busy bees. They are constant doers filling their lives and minds with visions of grandeur, keeping their agendas filled and life predictable, mistaking doing for purpose, relentlessly seeking outside themselves for what will satisfy the inner longing for something they can’t quite put their finger on. At the extreme, these obsessive goal tenders push others aside in their quest for personal gain while in constant pursuit of the next achievement that will bring them happiness. The trouble with this mode of thought is that happiness is a state of being that can’t be reached by doing anything. Unfortunately the goal tending gene usually gets passed on from generation to generation. Doer parents are out there shuffling their Mini-Me kids to ballet lessons, math tutors and gymnastics competitions ~ pushing five year-olds to meet schedules that would rival that of a seasoned executive and leaving those precious innocents sad, tired and completely stressed out. With all that endless striving and no time to creatively express their blossoming spirits through joyful, spontaneous play, for these unfortunate little “human doings” depression is a real life possibility. The teen suicide stats say it all. For me, not having goals doesn’t mean a lack of ambition or purpose. I see goals as self-imposed limitations! If keep my eyes focused directly on the prize, I could very easily miss out on all the exciting opportunities dancing merrily on the periphery and that’s what I believe we’re here to experience! So instead, I’ll always do the next alluring, amusing or beautiful thing that comes along and if that doesn’t feed my soul, I pray the seat of my pants grow wings and helps me connect with something else! ~ Go with the Flow! - More articles by Mary Giuffre on What's invisible An award winning Television Producer/Director/Writer for over 30 years, Mary Giuffre sidestepped mainstream media and created SoulWater EnergyWorks to focus on the Mary Giuffre ~ Specializing in Feng Shui For Your Spirit© Mentoring
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April 28. 2010 - HR Interviewer: “Where do you see yourself in five years?”
